How to Take Care Someone You Love with Terminal Illness
A terminal illness affecting a family member or someone you love changes life in general, not only when it comes to providing care and support but also the fear of losing that person. Most people don’t know how to react and how to deal with the situation. If you have a family member or someone you love diagnosed with a terminal illness, it is important to prepare yourself, and don’t just dwell on the matter. Your loved one would want to spend his life with something meaningful and memorable such as watching the sunset, going to the beach, or meeting with friends.
While it is true that a terminal illness may have painful and burdensome signs and symptoms, you can still help to relieve these manifestations by doing a thorough research on your end when it comes to managing such illness. Use the internet as a resource tool since it is accessible anytime and anywhere you go using different internet-capable mobile devices, and just open a browser like Google or Yahoo then enter the name of the illness (e.g. peritoneal mesothelioma, congenital heart defect, or cervical cancer. Let your loved one know that you are there to provide not only his medical needs but also listen to his concerns. Allow time for your loved one to pour his emotions and thoughts, and don’t force acceptance because there is no right or wrong when it comes to death. Terminally ill patients usually experience denial as a form of protecting themselves from the overwhelming and frightening reality of death, and as long as the denial is not causing your loved one harm, then it is not necessarily negative. The most common fears of a person with a terminal illness include loss of control of bodily functions, losing independence, becoming a burden to the family, financial consequences, pain, and death.
It is important to provide your loved one spiritual and psychological support by inviting him to talk about his fears, and seek professional help as needed such as a spiritual counselor, psychologist, or psychiatrist. Don’t hesitate talking about memories and provide affirmation that the life of your loved one matters, and that he will be remembered. If possible, you can consider recording your conversation as a way to honor your loved one. There will come a point that if your loved one feels the time is coming, he will open up the topic of his wishes before he dies, so don;t forget to ask what he wants because there are people who want to die with their loved ones nearby, while there are those who prefer dying alone or privately.